Women and men are equal, but they different. It is crucial to understand the wisdom of the difference.
If we were the same, we would not be able to co-exist together. We would not be able to create the alliance with each other. And the examples of this situation can be observed: women who try to be like men have troubles attracting men or they attract men that are feminine or irresponsible or dysfunctional. As well there are couples that always fight or rival because they can’t balance with each other.
Who are smarter – women or men? Who are stronger – women or men? Who are more capable – women or men?
Silly questions!!! How can you compare water and fish? Their natures are different. But together they co-exist in harmony. They both need each other: water is a nourishing environment for fish; fish is a source of healthy life for water.
Without water fish cannot survive. Without fish water is lifeless.
Let’s take a look at the difference between the natures of women and men using this categories: mind, will and feelings.
| Man | Woman | |
| Logical | Mind | Intuitive |
| Hard | Will | Gentle |
| Restrained | Feelings | Impetuous |
Modern women think that they don’t want to be as it is described above because mass media tell them it is better to be logical, hard and restrained. Yes, better. But for men, not for women.
In relationship with men and children women can succeed only when they are intuitive, gentle and impetuous.
For example, when a woman has a baby, she needs to have an intuitive mind, gentle will and expressive feelings to provide the best care for the newborn. Without love of mothers children suffer enormously. Without caress, kindness, calmness and tenderness children can not grow up happily.
Those feminine qualities don’t seem to be the ones I possess, unfortunately. Never too late to develop them, but I realize it might take a long time.
Ce, these qualities are already within you, but there are unexpressed. You need just to connect with your feminine side and let it flourish.
It is difficult to nurture the very qualities condemned by a culture…i have witnessed many a hard-working man flee to the remotest villages: India, Thailand, Indonesia and the Dominican Republic searching for the simple and genuine woman.
But alas! Much to his chagrin, once returned and exposed to her New World, his simple woman begins to resemble precisely his original discontent!
It happens with these men because of their belief systems. Everybody gets whatever they believes in.
These men believe that Modern World influences badly on women and that what they get when they bring their simple ladies to the west.
Women tend to conform themselves to what is seen as valuable in a culture, exactly because they are so receptive.
The culture tells women they are awesome if the are strong in a masculine way. Some women are, but most women have more feminine strength than masculine strength. If you glorify only one kind of woman, the others intuitively know they have to conform.
So true!
I play a feminine role with pride and enjoy it. Women around me see how happy I am and they choose to be feminine with joy. =)
Perhaps “the Modern World influences…” is a realistic statement with no judgment (“badly”) needed. Our environment influences period. The true nature of a woman exists always, but it may flourish like a flower in a sidewalk crack rather than a fern in the jungle.
you are highly stereotypical…is there something wrong with being a hard, strong or logical woman? you are just encouraging young ladies to become housewives and believe that they are nothing more than FEMALES…well guess what? we…females…have been quite successful in the past and we are succeeding a lot right now and no doubt in future, we will be successful. if you want to sit there and believe you are a lady and therefore a man can ruin your life and put you down, then you believe that alone and stop telling women that they are nothing!
Eve, I understand your feelings about this subject. Just want to point out some things about your comment.
There is nothing wrong with being a hard, strong or logical woman. She just misses lots of opportunities because intuition, feelings, and tenderness are very powerful gifts given to women by nature.
As well, I am not encouraging ladies to become housewives. Constant cleaning and cooking better to be reduced for all human beings. Unless someone enjoys it…
And I had never mentioned that women “are nothing more than FEMALES,” you impose this on me. This is your belief, not mine.