Our world is based on harmony. There, where the balance is remained, beauty and life prevail. There, where the balance is broken, destruction and chaos dominate.
The same principle works with women. When an image of woman is in harmony with her desires, her desires come true. While when an image of woman contradicts her dreams, they don’t come true at all or they realize improperly.
The one, who understands it completely, can make all desires to come true. The idea is simple, but it requires time and efforts for awareness and practical use. Actually, I think only through practice the one can fully realize what it means.
Therefore, I will be explaining it bit by bit using examples and my life experience.
Let’s start with a very simple illustration.
Sexuality, or the road that can lead you to nowhere
When I studied at university, my friends and I liked to go to night clubs to have some fun after the boring days in classes. Once in one of night club my friend and I got into a conversation with one lady. She was a pretty, tidy, and joyful woman. In the middle of our pleasant chat she suddenly started to cry. Later she revealed her problem to us.
She was around 30 years old. The reason why she visited night clubs every weekend was … to find a husband. You see, she dreamt about a family and children. But men wanted only to have fun with her. As she said, she could get guys into her bed with no trouble but none of them wanted to have relationship with her.
Usually women like to wonder: “Oh, she is beautiful, educated, independent, and she cooks well. What do these men want?”
Well, if they do not want to get married to her, so they want something that they do not see in her!
After our conversation, I decided to watch how she behaved with men in that club. It was interesting to find out what was the problem!
The first thing that anyone would pay attention immediately was her sexuality. I would say – over-sexuality. She demonstrated her sexiness through her clothes, her manners, her eyes, her smile, her step, and her speech. Of course, it could arise in men only one longing!
Is it men’s fault if a woman displays them something far away from her true desire? Is it men’s guilt if a woman does not think about the importance of her image?
Men saw only a sexy and easy-to-get woman in this lady – she did not give them a chance to see in her a future wife and a future mother of their children.
I do not blame them. I personally did not see that too. She did not represent her true desires. She portrayed something else.
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In our time it is in fashion to display sexuality. Therefore, some women do not take time to contemplate that in some cases they do not benefit from it. More than that this sexuality might lead them to the situation where they do not wish to find themselves.
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What you are saying is so true and so clear. The men of today see a woman presenting herself as an object of sex and then when they respond to it, the man is considered an animal who is out for only one thing. I know how easily we men are distracted by some extra effort from the ladies to look sexy. And I do not excuse these guys for their weak mindedness.
I think, however, that the whole reason for the over selling of sexuality in today’s North American women is that they might ‘say’ they want family but in reality they just want men to ‘think’ that is their ultimate desire. Never before in history have so many women spent so much time and effort on just getting sexual gratification. What’s more, never in history have so many women been given so much by a court system that encourages divorce for profit.
I know many people in solid, God fearing marriages and I assure you that they are an ever decreasing minority. The husbands are committed to their wives and work very hard to make sure that all of the basic family needs are met as well as the emotional and physical needs of their wives. And these wives go well beyond minimal effort to make sure their husbands are happy and supported in both their career and personal needs.
Sadly, this sort marriage makes up approximately 4 or 5 percent of the marriages in the US and Canada.
Of all of the people I know in these stronger than average marriages, none (and I do mean none) of them met in clubs and bars while drinking heavily and looking for sex. There’s a clue hidden there. If you are looking for a man or woman with strong family values and a desire to build a life long partnership, chances are you won’t find them while you are trying to get laid in some night club or bar. You just don’t go picking blueberries in an apple orchard.
We all need to look more closely at how to build on the character of our partner rather than see how much of it we can drain from them in hopes of making our own little world more comfortable. Anyone who goes into a relationship looking for personal gain deserves being alone and lonely for the rest of their life. They simply don’t understand what the word ‘couple’ means.
Richard, thank you for commenting. Your words are very good continuing of posts. I absolutely agree with what you are saying – this is what we have in these days.
Also, I like how you pointed out: “You just don’t go picking blueberries in an apple orchard.”
Very well written post. It is really important for a woman to value herself to be valued by others. In fact it is true for everyone, be it men or women. This is a very nice blog, all the posts are insightful. Thanks for sharing.
Yes, this is universal. But I write only about women because I want them to reveal within themselves their true essence as the most marvelous flower does!