Feminine & Masculine

We, female and male, are equal as human beings, but our nature is different. It is crucial to understand the wisdom of the difference.

Why do you think the words stated below are separated this way?

Feminine – Yin	Masculine – Yan
Atmosphere	Object
Water	Fish
Being	Acting
Directed Within	Directed Outside
Harmony	Force
Soft	Hard
Twisting	Straight
Transparent	Solid
Pulp (flesh) of fruit	Peel (skin) of fruit

Monogamy Vs Polygamy

One amazing thought had hit me today. Why do women desire monogamy and men don’t? Of course, it is just a general opinion. Because all people are different and many men do want monogamy as well. But it is known that men dream about polygamy.

What’s interesting is that when a man is in love, he wants only her – he doesn’t want any other women.

It looks like a man desires polygamy when he is not in love but he wants monogamy when he is in love with his precious one!

Maybe the God made it this way, so women would try their best to keep the fire of love with her chosen one? For me it sounds like a really great motivation for women to take care of love. Isn’t it?

I am willing to change

There are times when we feel like we are drifting in a fog – totally confused. We are longing for something that will bring us peace and happiness. But we have no clue how to get to that point.

Usually we assume that the circumstances don’t allow us to get to this wonderful state. The truth is that it is our attitude does not let ourselves to move forward. Attitude toward ourselves, toward others, or toward life.

For example, the simple thought “I don’t deserve anything good” can be a real obstacle to living decently because this will make the one to miss or refuse any coming opportunities. I know a woman who is always afraid to date caring men because she feels that she is not good for such men. She feels stuck with her fears and depressed with inability to deal with it.

Very often we can be willing to find new opportunities but feeling unable to move on. Even when these opportunities are around us, we might not see them.

This situations reminds me a fly that beats its head against the glass on a window but can not notice the open side of it which is only 20 cm away from the fly. If this fly could see the whole window, it would see the open side and would be able to be free.

The same with us. We get trapped with something and can not see the open way out. We do not see that all real obstacles are within us – in our thinking patterns, in our behaviour, in our attitude.

In order to move on, we need to change our way of thinking: from “I can’t do it and I don’t know how to do it” to “I am willing to change. I am willing to learn.” It makes a huge difference because our new intent allows us to notice what we were not able to see yesterday.

Essence of Female Nature # 2

Women and men are equal, but they different. It is crucial to understand the wisdom of the difference.

If we were the same, we would not be able to co-exist together. We would not be able to create the alliance with each other. And the examples of this situation can be observed: women who try to be like men have troubles attracting men or they attract men that are feminine or irresponsible or dysfunctional. As well there are couples that always fight or rival because they can’t balance with each other.

Who are smarter – women or men? Who are stronger – women or men? Who are more capable – women or men?

Silly questions!!! How can you compare water and fish? Their natures are different. But together they co-exist in harmony. They both need each other: water is a nourishing environment for fish; fish is a source of healthy life for water.

Without water fish cannot survive. Without fish water is lifeless.

Let’s take a look at the difference between the natures of women and men using this categories: mind, will and feelings.

Man		Woman
Logical	Mind	Intuitive
Hard	Will	Gentle
Restrained	Feelings	Impetuous

Modern women think that they don’t want to be as it is described above because mass media tell them it is better to be logical, hard and restrained. Yes, better. But for men, not for women.

In relationship with men and children women can succeed only when they are intuitive, gentle and impetuous.

For example, when a woman has a baby, she needs to have an intuitive mind, gentle will and expressive feelings to provide the best care for the newborn. Without love of mothers children suffer enormously. Without caress, kindness, calmness and tenderness children can not grow up happily.

Essence of Female Nature # 1

The essence of female nature is energy. The essence of male nature is being a unit that is influenced by the energy. We, female and male, are equal as human beings, but our nature is different.

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If we don’t understand this difference, we tend to have conflicts, disappointments and frustration with each other. As a result, we can observe in our current society – majority of women are dissatisfied with men, majority of men are dissatisfied with themselves.

Notice when a man appears in a new organization (or in a group of friends), there is no much change in the atmosphere. Everything stays quite stable. But when a woman join a group of people, there is always a change: others begin to feel different – a little different or a lot different – but not as usual. It depends which energy the lady adds.

Let’s take another example – family. It is always in a woman’s power what atmosphere is at home. If she is happy, relaxed and satisfied, the whole family feels this way. When she is upset, angry and not pleased, there will be conflicts, misunderstandings or tension at home.

Therefore, it is crucial for every woman to realize that she is the energy that influences everything around. Especially her man. Through her emotions she influences the emotional state of her ma The connection between him and her is so strong, that sometimes the only thing a man can do to change his emotional state is either to satisfy the woman or go to another woman to recharge. Sorry to say but it is not always easy to please a woman who can never be pleased with anything!

And this is actually the reason why men cheat – they look for the way to recharge themselves. They need energy to recharge their emotional well-being.

For example, when a girlfriend scolds her man, she put him down emotionally. In this situation he is hungry for positive energy. He is emotionally starving. To survive he needs some energy which he might get from another woman who can make him feel good.

In order to have a good life as a woman, start paying attention to your female nature. Keep an eye on how you influence the world around you. Notice how your emotional state makes impact on the atmosphere at home, at work, in your relationships, or in certain situations with others.

 

Why is it important to love ourselves?

After working with women on a variety of our typical problems, I came to the conclusion that self-love is the essential of any woman’s well-being.

Let’s take the most common situation. She is a very loving and caring lady; she does everything for her man – she is always available, she fixes any of his problems, she makes him feel special. But he does not move his finger to make her feel good. He does nothing for her.

The situation is unpleasant. What to do? You can utilize the special strategies to make him crave for you. The only trick using these strategies is that they tend to stop giving you results when two of you start living together. This is the reason why some women prefer to keep the distance with their boyfriends in order to save sweet dating moments.

Anything else we can do? Yes, we can. We can penetrate deeper into this issue to understand why men lose interest over time.

When women tell me about their troubles with boyfriends, husbands, relatives and other people emphasizing the luck of respect and care, the first question I make is “How do you treat yourself? How much do you love yourself?“

They always give me a straight answer: “I can’t love myself. I always think of others” or “How can I love myself when others suffer?“

And here is the core of the most women’s problems. They don’t love themselves or don’t love enough.

Love is the very powerful energy that gives us everything we need to be happy. It is the source of our fruitful life. When we love ourselves entirely, we stay in good health, we are loved and respected by others, we always have good luck, and we enjoy ourselves in any situations.

It is like a plant. You can nourish or poison it. If you water the plant, it will give you fruits. While digging down its roots or using chemicals will make the poor plant die!

Magnificence

What is the difference between usual women and the most magnificent ones? Love, Love and Love!!!

Magnificent women love themselves completely. They love the way they look. They love the way they talk. They love they way they behave. Absolutely everything about themselves – they love!!!

Even if they say something silly or even if they are sick today. They love themselves in every moment!

Natural Birth

I would like to share with you the video about Natural Birth from Birth Into Being.

What is the Natural Birth?

It is the birth without pain, but with Love, Amazement, Beauty and Pleasure!

It is the birth when both woman and man take part and responsibility – she gives, he receives.

Wise goodness

… who are you, then?
I am part of that power which eternally wills evil and eternally works good.
Goethe, Faust

When I read this quote the first time, I could not understand it completely. How can something “bad and negative” work good? It sounds like nonsense, isn’t it?

There is an incredibly talented work of literature that I am completely in love with. It taught me a lot when I was a teenager. The Master and Margarita written by Mikhail Bulgakov.

One of the main character in this book is the Devil who was called Woland. I consider him as a wonderfully wise character. But after reading this book for the first time, I felt uncomfortable thinking “how can I like Woland so much? He is the Devil. He is bad. A number of people were his victims. They suffered.”

But not everybody suffered from him. There was a woman (Margarita) who found happiness and piece, thanks to Woland. And here is the question arises – why did he help her while ruined lives of others?

You see, Woland tests everyone before having a deal. If people can not overcome greediness, laziness, money-grubbing, fear, hypocrisy and pride, their meetings with the Devil brings them suffering. Because they fail the testing. The Devil gives lessons fairly eventually working for goodness. Everybody gets according to its deserts.

At the same time Woland gives everything to the woman with an open heart and pure intentions because the dark side serves only the ones who can go through its testing.

Isn’t it, wise goodness? What do you think?

The Science of Happiness

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Looking at the Science of Happiness I agree with statements such as “express gratitude for what you have”, “be optimistic” and “always smile.” But there is something that bothers me.

When you play a happy part all the time, when you are optimistic all the time, you do gain the positive energy flowing into you. But a person has a variety of feelings available which are positive and negative. And all these feelings have their purpose. If we concentrate only on positive emotions while we deny negative ones, we miss something. But what do we miss? What the meaning of negative emotions?

Let’s take any kind of mechanical device. For example, an alarm system to protect a house. If there is smoke, it starts making a loud noise. It calls your attention. It tells you that something is going wrong. We draw our attention to the noise right away. No one would have a thought to ignore it pretending that everything is fine.

Let’s imagine that we will turn off the alarm system. What might happen is one day a fire will take over your house while you have no clue what is going on. The system was off – it did not make the noise.

Negative feelings have a similar role to the alarm system in your house. When something is going wrong, it calls your attention to it. Maybe you do a mistake. Maybe you are in real danger. Maybe there is better way to accomplish something.

For example, a criticism is a bad thing if it is your habit. But it is your ally when you ask yourself “why do I criticize?”

I notice with myself: when I feel like criticizing something, it is always an intuition sign that there is a better way to approach an issue. As in the case with the Science of Happiness!

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